The motivating factor of competition is scarcity. If we think of competition as a cover of our tender hearts. The worry of other people being more than us, doing better, even having more. Admitting these fears means admitting our vulnerabilities. Admitting that life at times will be hardship and struggle! We can go into competition, which represents our untrue masculine side. Or go into the untrue feminine. Which encompasses feelings of scarcity, powerlessness, loss, failure, dependency, and the sacrifice of our needs, to have people meet our needs! All at the detriment of ourselves. And even to the detriment of them! The Untrue feminine is untrue, not because we might feel all the above feelings. It is untrue because we then use those things to believe we are powerless. And indeed! At times we might feel we are! However, we are not indefinitely. The untrue feminine is the place we give up on life and ourselves. And fall into patterns of manipulation, and self-denial. Who is going to sacrifice to who? To get their needs met. In response, we might enter power struggles with others, to feel in control of what we want and need. As being and feeling in control seems like the better option. Rather than feeling the very helplessness and powerlessness, we are trying to avoid. The longer we attempt to control others, outside events and other people. The further we will then eventually employ competition to win, further along, the line. At the core of every competition, and controlling scenario is the avoidance of wanting to feel heartbreak! The untrue masculine is the place where we believe we have to emotionally superior to others, or better than them. To win. It’s the places of competition, control, and power struggle. The ‘I am better than you’ Of course, we might be good at things others are not. However, they too will be good at things we are not! Heartbreak is the very pain we need to feel, to acknowledge all the places we felt betrayed, hurt, rejected. All the other places we tried to manipulate others. Thus then turning the untrue feminine into a place of the true. Through understanding our pain and applying ourselves. Being so, the untrue masculine side of ourselves becomes true. And learns to commits rather than compete. There is always an opportunity to commit to being with our feelings. To use them in a way that communicates with others and opens us up to respond to our needs. When you feel the need to compete with others. What does it hide? Can you admit the places inside where you feel loss, failure, rejection and hurt? Can you admit in life where you feel envy or jealousy? Would you be willing to commit to your success, rather than commit to competition? Even wanting the other person you compete with. To be successful!